intention.

The all-encompassing thought is… its not about what you can gain, its about what you can give. And that it can be enough to trust that what we would be gaining is the most that one can give. That the overall intention exists not just within a specific experience, moment, or up to a given point, but extends beyond accomplishments, achievements, and material gain. 

you can’t really call it “mutual” if its only about what you get.